If you are like most couples, you seek to have regular date nights. You may go to your favorite restaurant, double date with friends, or stay home for a movie and popcorn. Does this sound about right?
Well if it is, then according to researchers you are going about date night all wrong! Studies have found that couples who simply spend quality time together are probably not doing enough to keep their relationship from becoming stale.
Although it is great that you are having regular date nights, this routine type of date night is unfortunately lacking a key ingredient…‘novelty’.
Steering away from routine and instead making date nights novel, can build anticipation and trigger more excitement about upcoming alone time together. Likewise, having fresh date nights are a good way to re-encounter that butterfly feeling you felt when you first started dating.
Here are a few tips to keep your date nights exciting and fresh.
1. Try something new – Do something new together that neither of you have ever done before. Engaging in new activities with your partner is a great way to add some excitement into dates and into your marriage. Doing new things together also opens up room to bond and connect since you are both experiencing something new together for the first time.
2. Rotate planning out the date nights – With the pressure of planning date night falling on one person, they may find it easiest to just implement the routine dinner and a movie. Rotating date night planning allows for each partner to not only share the responsibility, but it will surely create the element of surprise and build your mate’s anticipation.
3. Be random – Date night doesn’t always have to be on the calendar, and it doesn’t always have to involve a plan. Take the opportunity to turn any free moment into a date. Recently, my mother randomly called me at work and asked if she could come pick up her grandson. I of course said yes. By the time I got home he was gone, and I told my wife to get dressed because we were going out. Yes it was in the middle of the week, and I had just worked 10 hours and date night was not on the calendar, but we were alone and date night seemed suitable.
4. Think outside the box – When it comes to date night, don’t think the norm. You can turn any night alone into a date night, with a little creativity. Date night can be as simple as coming up with a themed evening and creating activities around the theme or going out for a game of bowling and creating your own rules.
As we all know, anything that becomes monotonous and routine, can eventually become boring and stale. And boring and stale are two terms I doubt any couple would want to use to describe their relationship or date nights.
For me and my wife, we recognized early on in our relationship that we had to keep our date nights regular, yet fresh and fun. This actually led us to start our own business, Datelivery; in which we fully plan out date nights for couples that are unique, creative and fun. Each date in a box is packaged and shipped out monthly. In addition to doing these date nights we plan out for other couples, we heavily rely on the above tips in order to keep our marriage and date nights novel, fun and exciting.
So tell us…How do you keep your date nights novel?
**Blog post originally featured on SimpleMarriage.net**